When a couple is looking to spice things up in the bedroom, one way they may employ is an erotic massage. Such an experience can be exciting, sensual and satisfying, and doesn’t require much more equipment than a pair of willing hands and some erotic massage lotions. Having said that, it may be easy to make the plan and get the gear, but how does the massage work?

If you want to create the perfect erotic massage at home, then just follow these steps:

Step 1: Create the Right Atmosphere

It all begins with the right kind of mood. This one should go without saying, in reality. You don’t need a professional-style massage bed, but you’ll need a firm but comfortable bed to get started, as well as the right kind of lighting and background music that you know will create a great ambience.

If you have a dimmer switch, then creating the right kind of lighting is as easy as turning the dial, but for those without, candles work just as well. Scented candles are great for further adding to the atmosphere. It’s also a good idea to keep music low-energy and calming.

Step 2: Prepare Your Lotions

Different massage lotions have different properties and after-effects. You should be sure that you stick to erotic lotions, that is those lotion products that have been specifically designed to boost sexual stimulation and pleasure. Different products will have specific instructions, so follow them right to get the oil ready for use before getting started.

Step 3: Work Slowly

Some might say an erotic massage should start slowly but then work up to more of a crescendo. In fact, the really great erotic massage starts and continues at a nice, slow and steady pace, or at least it should for the first 20 minutes or so. Massage should start where any regular massage takes place, on the upper or lower back, the shoulders, etc. In that sense, it won’t be different from a regular massage.

The biggest difference, however, is in the way that the massage progresses, from the more regular areas of the back and shoulders, to the more personal and erotic areas later on. At this point, however, keep things slow, steady and even. You need to build the feeling gradually. The best standard movement is to use the heel of your hand to make nice, consistent and fluid movements across the muscles.

Step 4: After the Muscles, It’s Time to Tease

After the full body massage part is over, it’s time to start helping this event live up to its erotic name. The tease is achieved by massaging around the more sensitive and erogenous zones, but not going directly for them just yet. So, instead of massaging the nipple for instance, work on the flesh around it. The teasing sensation really helps to build feeling before the main event, which comes in the next step.

Step 5: Move the Massage to the Naughty Zones

Steps 3 and 4 are both designed to build up the sexual tension between you to the point of near-eruption. The fifth step is all about exploiting that by moving your massage in slow, circular motions to the more sexy areas of the body. Grip and touch should be gentle at first, since that really catalyzes the sexual feeling, even more so than it would going in more directly.

Step 6: Keep Going Until Climax

Some are tempted to pivot from a massage session directly into a regular sex session. That can be nice, but it’s also very satisfying to bring the massage session to and end with a climax. Sometimes the feeling of that “ending” or perhaps just a sign of a break between sessions for some, makes the entire process all the more enjoyable, as it builds slowly from total relaxation to the dizzying heights of ecstasy.